Examples of Sex Experts' Free "Help"
following two pages illustrate perfectly how sex experts from advise boards on the web
deal with desperate people who are troubled by penis size worries:
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Dr. Sandor Gardos at sexuality.about.com
Andrea Valerio at drandrea.com
Vanessa Burton at AskMen.com
The opinion of afraidtoask.com
Andrea Nemerson at alt.sex.column
An opinion found at
Another opinion found at
Sex therapist Dr. Gardos at sexuality.about.com
answering a question from a woman who asks "how
big a penis should be to please a woman". The woman also states that
her "current boyfriend is smaller than others before": (note:
the original text at about.com has been edited now)
"There are women who do prefer a large penis, but
it is usually more for aesthetic reasons."
starts of by insulting women twice in one sentence. The phrase "There
are women..." insinuates that there are not that many of
them who prefer large. He ads that it is mostly for aesthetic
reasons. Very humiliating to women's sexuality. Sure, women like
large penises also for aesthetic reasons, but that is secondary. But he hasn't finished so let's
hear him out some more:
"Yes, some women like the feeling of fullness, but
the vagina does not have touch-sensitive nerve endings in the
inner two-thirds… even among women who say they can feel a
difference, it is usually due to girth and not length."
He is one of those people who seems to base his knowledge
exclusively on the research of Kinsey and Masters
and Johnson (see page
21) Sure, Kinsey
proved that a vagina doesn't have many touch-sensitive
nerve endings in the inner two-thirds. He proved it by touching
women's vagina with a device similar to a Q-tip! Whose
penis head resembles a Q-tip for god's sake? A penis doesn't touch
the vagina walls, it pushes, presses, slams, bangs and whams it!
To say that some women like the feeling of
fullness is a gross understatement. The truth is that most
women enjoy that feeling. He says it is due to girth and not to
length. Well, isn't girth part of the size of a penis? Doesn't
that tell you right there that women enjoy thick penises? However,
he never discusses girth later on in this "professional advice".
He doesn't seem to be aware either that many women can get orgasms from the uterine movements
caused by deep rhythmic penetration of a long penis,
which at the same time stimulates the sensitive spots all the way in the back of
the vagina around the uterus opening. The phrase "even
among women who say they can feel a difference..." is
degrading towards women's sexuality, since it implicates that most
women can't feel the difference between a large and a small penis.
Dr. Gardos: "You should also know that erection might be
considered the great equalizer. Those men who have smaller penises
when they are soft usually have a greater size increase than those
with larger flaccid penises. The size differences between men are
much less drastic if you compare them erect."
Like many of his buddies, this
therapist keeps on nagging about the "Great
Equalizer" theory. But he forgets that
he is talking to a woman. It's not smart trying to make a girl believe in
this myth. Most of them have had enough variety of penises between
their legs to know that huge flaccid penises usually turn into
huge erections and small flaccid penises become small erect ones. But let's
listen to the end of his argument:
Dr. Gardos: "Unless your boyfriend is very small -- as in
under three inches erect -- I wouldn't be too worried. Experiment
with positions that give you the kinds of sensations you desire
Ok girls, this "expert" says
practically that with any
penis above three inches long erect, you can expect the sensations
you desire as long as you experiment. Like attaching a thick eight
inch strap-on to your boyfriend maybe?
A question by a man to psychologist Andrea Valerio at drandrea.com:
"Is penis size important to women? I know they say it's not supposed to be, but sometimes I get a different impression."
Andrea: "Functionally, the size of the man's penis is
not the necessary ingredient for a woman's pleasure. The G-Spot
is located just inside the vaginal opening within easy reach of
a finger, and the clitoris is located externally above the
vaginal opening within easy reach of a finger or tongue, so the
penis is not a crucial player for a woman to achieve pleasure."
say anything to avoid getting to the point.
Following this twisted logic, we could also say that a vagina is
not crucial for a man to achieve pleasure. Like two billion
masturbating men don't know that already. However, the pleasures
caused by a penis or by a finger are not the same. Any woman will
confirm that a penis causes much more
anything else. This is exactly the point the questioner is making.
Like any man he wants to give his woman ultimate pleasure.
Experiencing ultimate satisfaction -- a man needs a vagina for that and
a woman a penis. That's not some big secret. On top of that, the
questioner is not talking about how to give pleasure to his
woman. He doesn't ask if a finger or a tongue can cause orgasms.
The questioner just wants to know if size is important to a woman
when a man penetrates her with his penis. But just like the other
advisers, this one refuses to get to the point. Then she continuous:
Andrea: "Like some men who have a preference for large
breasts or small breasts, heavy legs or thin legs, some women may
also develop psychological preferences for the size of a man's
penis... While some women do have penis size preferences, most
women focus more on the quality of the relationship and the man's
Everyone knows that avoiding to say the
truth about penis size is a matter of Political Correctness,
but this much PC is nauseating. This psychologist
doesn't realize however that in her warped answer
she denigrates women by insinuating that their
preference for size can only be psychological and that only some
women may develop such preference. What's the big deal? All women have some idea about what size penis gives them
the most pleasure and that is only natural and human. All of them
agree that too small is too small and too big is too big. That's
very vague of course but it tells you clearly that they
prefer certain sizes. If at least this psychologist
wasn't a woman!
Vanessa Burton at AskMen.com
answers the question: "Does size matter to women?":
Vanessa: "You don't have to worry. Women don't care. (...) Who says size counts? A few months ago I was speaking with a friend who told me about one of her encounters with this wonderful lover. She described what they did in detail, and all this time I was wondering
how big is this horse that my friend is sexing? Well guess what? He wasn't hung like a horse. As a matter of fact, he was more like a pony.
(...) Women simply don't care about size."
Who is she kidding?!! She says women don't
care about size while she admits "all this time I was
wondering how big is this horse?" Guys,
practically ALL women care about size and they ALL ask their
girlfriends about the size of their lovers' penis.
page at Askmen.com she answers the question: "Does bigger feel better for women?":
Vanessa: "The important thing to realize is that most of women's sexual pleasure during sex comes from their clitoris, which is on the outside of her body, and the first 2 inches of the vagina. Therefore,
unless your erect penis is less than 2 inches
long, it should not cause any sexual problems."
Did you get that? Two inches hard-on is
enough!!! Something tells
me that this woman only pretends to be stupid. There is no
way she can believe such nonsense herself. Two inches..., any moron
knows better than that! Could she be one of those frigid
penis-envious anorgasmic feminists who can't accept they need a
man (=penis) in their life?
The opinion of afraidtoask.com
to the question "Is it true that women prefer men to have a big
Expert: "False. A 1983 study (Fisher et al.) asked 154 woman undergraduate students to read a number of erotic passages which differed only in the size of the male penis in the story. The women were then asked a standard set of questions to determine their level of arousal. The study found that, in general,
penis size was an unimportant factor in the level of arousal of these woman."
Whooahahahaaa! This has to be the dumbest
attempt ever to deny the existence of women's penis size
preference. Two huge errors: when it comes to penis size you
don't make women read erotic passages and you don't ask
them about their level of arousal. What about letting them have a live
erotic passage and checking their panties for wetness? Or at least
something like the eye-pupil test described
on page 38. But hold on, they have more nonsense to say:
Expert: "A survey of women by the Diagram Group in 1981 showed that when asked to what part of a man's body do woman pay most attention, 39% said the buttocks. Only 2% of women indicated an interest in the penis. Other studies (e.g., Masters and Johnson, Hite, Wolfe) have shown that penis size has very little to do with either a woman's stimulation during intercourse, or the probability that she will reach an orgasm.
In summary, the literature reports that the vast majority of women don't care if a man has a small, medium, or large penis.
Bwhooahahahaaa! This is too much imbecility
to handle in one day. Again, it's not about what women answer to
stupid surveys or about what the literature reports, it's
about what women feel while being BANGED. Furthermore, using the
flawed reports of Masters and Johnson and Shere Hite with regard to
penis size versus vaginal stimulation is a sign of
extreme incompetence (see page 21 Female Orgasm
- A question to Andrea Nemerson at alt.sex.column
by obviously a very
"I'm twenty-seven, and still a virgin. I have been
extremely shy since early childhood. I've had lots of crushes, but
lack the nerve to ask anyone out. Another problem is my penis size:
just over five inches fully erect. I'm sure you must have covered
this issue before, but is this enough to satisfy a woman? What about
"(...) Considering the deathless ubiquity of the size
question, I suppose I'll just have to keep repeating the
following statistic, at regular intervals, for the rest of my
life: Ninety percent of erections measure between five and seven
inches. That places you on the smaller end of the standard
scale. But,…, you've got plenty of company."
Despite this expert's otherwise excellent columns she ignores the seriousness of the
penis size issue. In her answer, she unwittingly reveals that avoiding to tell the truth about penis size is not a good tactic, since she admits that the size
question always keeps coming back.
However, in a response
to another question, she gets closer to the point by saying:
"Sometimes it ain't the motion: it's the meat"
A "smart guy" answers a question from a man who has all his
life been humiliated about his smaller than average penis (from the-penis.com).
Note: This is not a comment from the editor of this excellent
website. It is just one of the many responses posted on his site.
Smart guy #1: "It's all in your head, son! But then I'm sure
you know that already. The thing you need to work on is not to
stop worrying about the size of your penis but to concentrate on
the positive things about yourself. If you equate your
self-worth to the size of your penis, you are just as much of a
dick head as the guy who thinks he's a stud because his is
big...Identify the best parts of who you are and let those
things become the centerpiece of your identity, not your weight
or your loss of hearing, and certainly not that piece of anatomy
that allows you to pee."
person makes some sense first by
saying the guy should concentrate on the positive things about
himself. Then he makes the fatal mistake of unintentionally
belittling his penis even more, saying "…that piece of
anatomy that allows you to pee." That is probably what this
poor guy has always been thinking already, that in his case peeing
is all it has ever been good for. Well done!
A comment from another "smart" person on the same page trying to explain to a
confused guy why girls go wild by looking at a stripper with a huge
penis (at the-penis.com)
Smart guy #2: "Those women went wild over the stripper with
the big penis, but don't we also enjoy seeing strippers with
huge breasts? Do we think they'll be better in bed, more
satisfying, because they have large breasts? Nope! Applauding at
what you are seeing on a stage doesn't really indicate who you
want to sleep with."
truly believes that women go wild by the sight of
a big penis for the same reason as men who enjoy big breasts, is
naive to say the least. This false comparison is very often used by therapists and
even women themselves to shut up those with questions about penis
size. Rest assured, these girls want to do something else with that big penis
than what men want to do with those large breasts.
Remember from page 5
that penis size matters to women much more than breasts size matters to
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